Life Balance is one of the many things that I have been struggling with the last few years since I started studying at the university. I would often complain about how busy my school schedule was. On top of that, I had work which I quit earlier this year, photography and my fiancé who naturally demands time and attention. I would manage to go to the gym or meet my girls for coffee in town. BALANCE, right?
I felt like I had this whole life balance thing under control. But that didn’t last long until started struggling with creating time for everything including “me time” which I highly value. I have to admit; during these moments, it was hard to do everything. I’m in a learning process, and I have mastered a few things that I am continuously practicing. I sometimes don’t have everything figured out, but I have noticed a tremendous change
Learning how to prioritize was a brain opener for me. I come from a background where we go with the flow, you know. We take one day at a time and one good reason why we often say use the well know Swahili phrase “Hakuna Matata.” But this old habit had to stop as things started to pile and needed a new strategy, else I would not be able to handle my time appropriately. Keep in mind that, not all tasks demand an equal amount of attention. So, I only focus on the most important things and eliminate tasks that don’t require a lot of my energy, time and attention.
No shame in saying no
Saying no to others especially to people whom we are so close to can be tough. How many times have you held yourself back from saying no because you knew you would hurt someone? I have done it several times, but I had to learn the hard way. All the yeses meant that I had to commit myself, and sometimes, I was unable to either perform well or give my all. It was time I started to let go the fear of confrontation and slowly started to say no. Though I might hurt a few people, I learned to say no isn’t that bad as long as you do positively.
I have found myself caught up in middle of multitude distractions which in turn has affected my productivity. Having my phone so close while working is a big distraction as I’m always checking my feed and what others have posted. Minimizing how much I use my phone and how much time I use online has helped me stay focused. When I am not at the university or the library, I like to stay and get my work done at home. Another way to efficiently banish distraction is making sure that the house is clean and well organized. This way, I don’t have to go round cleaning every time I have a 5min break. The idea is to stay concentrated, focus on the goals and get things done.
Photos by Axel.