How Confident Are You?

The other day in the bus on my way home from the university, I was having a conversation that touched different topics with a friend. I was unprepared when she asked me “Michelle, how confident are you?” It took me a moment before I could answer her question. My cheeks felt warm because I knew I needed more time to discuss this issue.

My first thought was, how do I define confidence? When I was younger, I misunderstood the definition confidence. Nothing mattered as long as I fitted in the crowd. I had a hard time trying to find who I was. Years later, I have come to learn that being confident is accepting and embracing my flaws and who I am as a person. It is the ability to say “NO” without feeling the pressure to apologize to the world for being me. The ability to choose what makes me happy.

I have a better understanding of what confidence means to me. But, I do have moments when I feel less confident. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, I find it nerve wrecking. Life feels like is totally screwed. I get filled with emotions and insecurities. To avoid banging myself against the wall, I’ve mastered a few things. They help me boost my confidence back again whenever I experience these moments.

Avoid holding myself back and keep doing it.

When I started shooting my blog pictures, I totally sucked and was scared at the same time. After practicing for over a year, I can safely say that I am more confident now than when I began my photography journey. The more I’m out there shooting the more I learn, and the more confident I am. My motto is to avoid holding myself back and keep doing it.

Not to underestimate me

I am guilty of this, but I’m learning how to be more kind to myself. Self-doubt creates room for more insecurities, and that is not my goal. I have a few reminders on my phone that remind me of how great I am. They also remind me of the amazing things that I am capable of doing.

Not to be scared of failing

I adopt so many emotions and get confused when I fail to achieve something. It’s the worst feeling, and it affects me. I am learning how to accept my mistakes and try as much to push away the thought of being scared of failing. The important thing is to get control of my emotions and try it again.

Appreciate and celebrate small wins.

I find it necessary to acknowledge the smalls steps that I have made. It makes a big difference in enjoying the process and celebrating the small wins. I always feel proud of myself which increases my confidence and makes me feel motivated.

So, there you have it. A few of the things that I do to boost my confidence whenever I feel less confident. How confident are you and how do you define confidence? Would love to know your thoughts. Share them in the comments below.

Thank you so much for reading. I wish you a super lovely day.


Pictures take by Axel B.

How Confident Are You?

Sweater: H&M

Belt: H&M

Bag: Seen here

Shoes: Kenza sko Aalborg

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  1. April 9, 2017 / 8:34 pm

    Hey beautiful.

    Interesting read. I struggled with confidence during my teenage years because my face was infested with pimples and I just felt I was never beautiful enough. But you know what its not until I accepted the way I was that I started being more confident and I think blogging has helped me with the confidence too. x

  2. April 11, 2017 / 7:44 am

    Love the outfit and the hair! I have a pink sweater similar to that too 🙂

  3. April 12, 2017 / 3:35 pm

    These are awesome tips! I especially love the idea of celebrating small wins…it’s so easy to get bogged down by negativity, so it’s important to focus on the positive! xoxo

    • April 13, 2017 / 5:37 pm

      I agree with you, Melissa. It’s so easy to get discouraged by negativity and not getting closer to your dreams. Celebrating small wins helps boost my confidence. Happy Easter!

  4. April 12, 2017 / 9:07 pm

    Such a cute outfit and great tips! 🙂

  5. April 13, 2017 / 5:30 pm

    I love this post! Confidence can be so tough sometimes but it is so important!

  6. April 13, 2017 / 5:30 pm

    I love this post! Confidence can be so tough sometimes but it is so important! Also love this look!

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