The other day when I was busy doing my evening skin care routine, what Axel asked me came as a surprise. “Sweetie, how can you always be happy and so positive?” My answer to him “I choose to be happy.”  You know, living a happy life sure does sound good, but the thing is, it is not always as easy as it is said. There are always issues or something that leaves us with worries. And I, for instance often can’t seem to get my head around everything. Though, as I am growing older, the easier it gets to find out what makes me happy or not. I realize that I am more aware of my surroundings, the people I spend my time with and anything that affects my emotions.

To tell you the truth, I was never a happy kind of person. It is a choice I made. My past and the mistakes that I made bothered me so much. I could worry for days. On top of this, I would get so pissed about smalls things that happened in my life. Choosing to be happy meant letting go of my fears and concerns. Worrying too much did not change anything. I started to turn all my experiences into life lessons. And instead of approaching life with negativity, I looked at the bright and good things. My shoulders felt lighter than ever before. I suddenly did not have to worry about the things I could have done differently.

I can’t put it in words how jolly I am when I take the time to be grateful for what I have. Moreover, I do appreciate the woman I’ve become today. It is a simple act that has a positive impact. Once in a while, I like to spend time alone, to be kind to myself and celebrate the small wins. I’m currently putting an effort to be genuinely kind to the people I meet and engage with on a daily basis. It is something that leaves me glowing in the inside. Talking and bonding with other women brightens me up. Through sharing our stories, we inspire, encourage and motivate each other. It makes me even happier.

Do you have ways that help you stay happy and positive? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Thank you for reading and talk to you super soon

xx

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Last week on Thursday, I had an unusual experience. I woke up early as I normally do.  I was full of positive energy, big smiles and feeling oh so good; I even shared on my Instagram. Hours later, all my plans started to take a different turn. I got super messy, and things got crazy to a point I had a meltdown. What I could not understand was why things were working against me. It was a stressful day, and I knew if I continued with what I was doing, things would get even messier. So, I forced myself to step back.

This scenario reminded me that, no matter how much we want to stay positive and be happy, we do not always have control of everything that occurs in our lives. However, we can learn how to control our approach to such situations and look for ways that can help us experience happiness. Below are some of the things I try whenever I’m going through a stressful day

Take a deep breath

This one is my favourite habit whenever I’m going through a stressful day. Although, once in a while, I do feel like I have a stone lying between my tight chest. Taking deep breaths help me feel calmer and more relaxed. It also helps in reducing the tension between my chest, and my shoulders tend to feel lighter.

Allow yourself to be emotional

I’m that kind of person who gets easily emotional. I think when I allow myself to be emotional, I feel more like a human. Whenever I struggle with letting it all out, I feel more pressure which sometimes leads to no good.

Be gentle with yourself

It’s hard to remember to be gentle with myself when I am going through a bad day. Something to keep in mind in such situations is that it is just a bad day. Focusing on the positive things and reminding myself how great of a woman I am and the things I have achieved. It helps in keeping stress from overtaking my body and mind.

Step back and reduce negative thoughts

It doesn’t cause any harm by stepping back once in a while from all the craziness around us and reduce negative thoughts. It is easy to get blown up and lose sight when feeling stressed out.  I appreciate this kind of moments as they help me worry less about life and all the daily duties I have. Instead, I choose to focus on taking care of myself while also re-charging for another new and fresh day. Besides, I love biking around in the city. It helps reduce stress.

So, there you have it. A few of the things that help me deal with a stressful day. Would love to hear your thoughts and how you deal with such days.

As always, Thank you so much for reading.

xx

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The other day in the bus on my way home from the university, I was having a conversation that touched different topics with a friend. I was unprepared when she asked me “Michelle, how confident are you?” It took me a moment before I could answer her question. My cheeks felt warm because I knew I needed more time to discuss this issue.

My first thought was, how do I define confidence? When I was younger, I misunderstood the definition confidence. Nothing mattered as long as I fitted in the crowd. I had a hard time trying to find who I was. Years later, I have come to learn that being confident is accepting and embracing my flaws and who I am as a person. It is the ability to say “NO” without feeling the pressure to apologize to the world for being me. The ability to choose what makes me happy.

I have a better understanding of what confidence means to me. But, I do have moments when I feel less confident. It doesn’t happen often, but when it does, I find it nerve wrecking. Life feels like is totally screwed. I get filled with emotions and insecurities. To avoid banging myself against the wall, I’ve mastered a few things. They help me boost my confidence back again whenever I experience these moments.

Avoid holding myself back and keep doing it.

When I started shooting my blog pictures, I totally sucked and was scared at the same time. After practicing for over a year, I can safely say that I am more confident now than when I began my photography journey. The more I’m out there shooting the more I learn, and the more confident I am. My motto is to avoid holding myself back and keep doing it.

Not to underestimate me

I am guilty of this, but I’m learning how to be more kind to myself. Self-doubt creates room for more insecurities, and that is not my goal. I have a few reminders on my phone that remind me of how great I am. They also remind me of the amazing things that I am capable of doing.

Not to be scared of failing

I adopt so many emotions and get confused when I fail to achieve something. It’s the worst feeling, and it affects me. I am learning how to accept my mistakes and try as much to push away the thought of being scared of failing. The important thing is to get control of my emotions and try it again.

Appreciate and celebrate small wins.

I find it necessary to acknowledge the smalls steps that I have made. It makes a big difference in enjoying the process and celebrating the small wins. I always feel proud of myself which increases my confidence and makes me feel motivated.

So, there you have it. A few of the things that I do to boost my confidence whenever I feel less confident. How confident are you and how do you define confidence? Would love to know your thoughts. Share them in the comments below.

Thank you so much for reading. I wish you a super lovely day.

Love..xx

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When I was out taking the pictures on this post, I met an old couple who seemed to be out for a walk. With a big smile on my face and direct eye contact, I politely said hello to them. They were curious and wanted to know what exactly I was doing. We spend time talking about why I love shooting my blog pictures.  The conversation got long then I expected. We conversed about many things like; fashion, photography and also, the climate difference in Kenya and Denmark. To my surprise, the lady offered to help me. Thing is, whenever I’m doing this kind of photography, I like it when I’m alone.  I tend to play music on my celly, and I’m always dancing and talking alone while snapping away. I sound crazy already, right? 😀

She warmed my heart for offering help, but I kindly said no, thank you. We said our goodbye’s and wished each other a pleasant afternoon. Her little gesture had me question myself if I am kind enough to the people I meet every day. If you asked me this in my early twenties, my answer would be, No!

Over the past years, I have learned, and I am still learning, that there is nothing more enriching than being kind and doing good to others. We are living life in a constant rush and pressure from work, studies, family and relationships. All these pressure can lead to endless worries forgetting what is happening around us. I believe in creating little time to be present. Doing small things like; being a good listener, giving hugs, throwing a genuine smile, helping other people when they need help and letting that old friend know that I think about them are some of the things I think, are an excellent way to show kindness.

Yesterday 1st December, I turned a year older. And my greatest wish and plan is to make a change.  To be kinder than I am now to other people. There are of course many different ways on how to be kind than what I mentioned, but the essential thing is to identify and put them into practice every single day. I hope this encourages you to do the same.

Thank you so much for constant love and support. I really appreciate you!

Have a nice and relaxing weekend.

Love..xx

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